I know it sounds cheesy, but I do think of this time of year as a new beginning for myself, my life, my family, my perceptions, my hopes, my dreams, and my goals. While I may not make a definitive ‘resolution’, as I once did as a child, I do reassess my life and think about what I can do to make my life and the life of those around me, better. Not just financially or physically, but in a substantial way.
How can I improve myself and become a more effective member of society? What can I change about myself to make it easier for my family? Am I too selfish? Am I too sarcastic? Am I too judgmental? Do I make too many demands and not enough sacrifices? Do I really follow the adage of, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you?” Would I really want people to treat me the way I treat people sometimes? Would I want to be my friend? (I hope those of you who are my friend say, ‘Yes!’.)
What can I do spiritually to make myself a better person? Do I need to read a few more self-help books? How to become a strong woman in a man’s society? Do I buy that hype? Does it matter?
Should I delve more into God’s Word and meditate on His scriptures? Certainly, as that helps me calm my mornings and gives a general peace to my day. But, where do I find the time to do this? Even being at home, one is always busy cooking, cleaning, caring for others, volunteering, being a taxi service to every member of my household. Where can I find the time?
The answer lies in what is really important to me. I find that if it is really important to me, I will carve out time in my day or week for it. If it’s not, it falls to the wayside.
I know that I have to work on managing my time. Realizing there are only twenty-four hours in a day, can make it hard to complete tasks which should be finished. Getting up to be somewhere every morning, shuttling people to school, work, church and other venues can be daunting and leave very little time to do the important things for self-care., for family-care.
When do I find the time to meditate? Spend time in prayer? Read my Bible? Then I remember technology is my friend. Have I mentioned how wonderful it is to have books on CD, iTunes, Audible? All I have to do is play and listen. That can help free up some of my day, as I can listen while in the car, or while working at home, etc. on various tasks. I will admit that sometimes, I do crank up the tunes while cleaning the house; I even have an upbeat playlist for it. Just don’t ever peek in the windows or you might bust a gut laughing at me as I dance around the house with my broom and mop.
Seriously though, the most important thing for me this year, I think, is to make time to spend with those I love. Without family, I would be nothing. So, with that in mind, my husband and I have decided that not only will we continue our weekly family game night with our friends and family, we’ll also add an family fun night. This will be where one person chooses the evenings activity; watching a movie or TV show or Netflix, play a board game, or whatever they want to do (within reason.) Frankly, I don’t see us bungee-jumping in the near future, but you never know…..
That being said, spending quality time with my family, taking time to meditate on scripture, learning to compromise more will be what I try to accomplish this year. I won’t say that I’m making a ‘resolution’, per se, but I will say that I intend to be a better person starting now…someone that I would want to be friends with. Because, although I think I’m doing well at being nice, out-going, friendly and kind, I know that not everyone sees me that way, that no one is perfect and there is always room for improvement.
Happy New Year! May your 2016 be full of promise, love, hope, joy, peace, friendship, family and prosperity. Many happy returns!